The answer is Yes

When you discuss your feelings with your mother, does she try to top the feeling with her own?  yes

When you discuss your feelings with your mother, does she try to top the feeling with her own?  yesDoes your mother act jealous of you?
Does your mother lack empathy for your feelings?  yes
Does your mother only support those things you do that reflect on her as a “good mother”?  yes
Have you consistently felt a lack of emotional closeness with your mother?  no
Have you consistently questioned whether or not your mother likes you or loves you? yes
Does your mother only do things for you when others can see?  yes
When something happens in your life (accident, illness, divorce) does your mother react with how it will affect her rather than how you feel?  yes
Is or was your mother overly conscious of what others think (neighbors, friends, family, co-workers)? yes
Does your mother deny her own feelings? i dont know
Does your mother blame things on you or others rather than own responsibility for her feelings or actions? yes
Is or was your mother hurt easily and then carried a grudge for a long time without resolving the problem? yes
Do you feel you were a slave to your mother?  in a way
Do you feel you were responsible for your mother’s ailments or sickness (headaches, stress, illness)? yes
Did you have to take care of your mother’s physical needs as a child? no
Do you feel unaccepted by your mother? yes
Do you feel your mother was critical of you? yes
Do you feel helpless in the presence of your mother? yes
Are you shamed often by your mother? yes
Do you feel your mother knows the real you? no
Does your mother act like the world should revolve around her? yes
Do you find it difficult to be a separate person from your mother? yes
Does your mother appear phony to you? yes
Does your mother want to control your choices? yes
Does your mother swing from egotistical to a depressed mood? no
Did you feel you had to take care of your mother’s emotional needs as a child? no
Do you feel manipulated in the presence of your mother? yes
Do you feel valued by mother for what you do rather than who you are? no
Is your mother controlling, acting like a victim or martyr? yes
Does your mother make you act different from how you really feel? yes
Does your mother compete with you? yes
Does your mother always have to have things her way? yes
Note: All of these questions relate to narcissistic traits. The more questions you checked, the more likely your mother has narcissistic traits and this has caused some difficulty for you as a growing daughter and adult.